This is a very common question people dealing with a narcissist long term will ask, since they are by nature provocative and reaction seeking personality types, and therefore often unpleasant to deal...
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The no contact rule is well understood now in the narcissistic abuse recovery space. It states that to give yourself the best chance of recovery, you must break off ALL contact with them - no...
Is There A Real Person Trapped Inside A Narcissist? (“Real Self”/”Inner Child”)
This is a huge mindset "trap" that people dealing with narcissists long term can fall into. Despite all their obnoxious, abusive behavior, it's hard not to wonder whether there is still a real person...
Oh boy, this is a very common frustration normal people get when dealing with narcissists, right? You can present them with hard data, facts, and evidence, or use simple, easy to understand,...
Gas-lighting - the deliberate attempt to invalidate and erode another person's perception of reality by constantly questioning or undermining it - is now a pretty well known term. But it can appear...
Forgiving Yourself After A Toxic Relationship (Narcissistic/Psychopathic Abuse)
This is something that's becoming gradually more known about in the toxic abuse recovery space - that forgiving oneself is ultimately more important than ever forgiving the narcissist or psychopath...
How To Spot A Psychopath In A Job Interview (And Avoid Hiring Them)
We've already covered extensively on this blog how damaging psychopaths are to a company if they allow them in, and then tolerate them. The bottom line is despite superficial appearances, these are...
Psychopaths are the worst types of managers you can have, with a provocative, reaction seeking style and an obsession with power and control over others that can be very oppressive to work under. How...
Why Do Narcissists Do Idealize-Devalue-Discard? (Cutting Edge Theory)
This is something victims of narcissistic abuse often want to know especially when feeling the pain after the discard in a toxic relationship - why? Why do narcissists even do this? Why do they take...
What Happens When Companies Tolerate Psychopaths? (Brutal Reality)
A lot is written about psychopaths in personal relationships, with the damage they cause now well documented. But what about in workplaces? What happens when a company hires, and then tolerates (even...
This is actually not uncommon, because there are unfortunately so many narcissists around, plus many narcs continually bounce from one disastrous relationship to another because of their broken and...
A common question for so many victims of narcissistic abuse is whether the perpetrator should ever be forgiven. Should we ever forgive a narcissist? Either for one specific, very hurtful thing they...
7 Reasons Why We Stay In A Relationship With A Narcissist/Psychopath (Toxic Relationship)
This is a very common thing victims of narcissistic/psychopathic abuse often wonder, sometimes during and definitely after the relationships. What was it that made me stay with them for so long? What...
Why Do Narcisissists Need Constant Supply? (Attention, Validation, Praise)
When spending any serious length of time around a narcissist, we see they’re almost child-like in terms of their constant need for “narcissistic supply” in all it’s various form (attention,...
A lot of the articles on this cover deeper level, more spiritual lessons that being tangled up with a narcissist can teach us (detachment, forgiveness etc). But I want to take a slightly different...
This is one of the many questions people tangled up with narcissists will ask once they step back a bit and see how bizarre their personality is. One thing that you’ll commonly observe is how they...
Toxic Communication Patterns In Modern Life (Identifying & Handling)
Toxic communication patterns are unfortunately very common in modern life in the Western world, with workplaces especially bad these days. This blog primarily focuses on the behavior of people with...
Gaslighting – When Someone Says Something Didn’t Happen When It Did (Or Vice Versa)
This is a common pattern of psychological abuse that starts to happen as a relationship with a disordered person starts to leave the "honeymoon" phase and move into the more toxic devalue/discard...